Even optimists need strategies in prolonged tough times. Dear Dr. Darby, Dear K,
Thanks for this beefy question. You, similar to many people, are losing that sense that everything will go back to ‘normal’ once the calendar turns on December 31. I have heard folks remark, ‘get me to 2021 fast,’ as if our current situation will magically transform in January. I think it’s safe to say that our troubles are staring us in the face, and we have a long way to go before they’re resolved. We’re not ‘going back to the way things were.’ It’s abundantly clear that we have to change on many fronts. Right now, as in other times in history, we as a society are faced with big tasks, challenges, and responsibilities. It can be overwhelming, to be sure. I am guessing your hopelessness and despair emerge when as you feel powerless to make things better and uncertain of the future. Do our current societal challenges mean that we should no longer go to the barn, enjoy ourselves, and develop our riding? Absolutely not! If anything, we need our barn time and our horses more than ever. As I’ve often said, for us equestrians, the barn is a sanctuary—our meditative, restorative place. It’s important to keep it that way—for our mental health, our riding, and our relationship with our horses. You ask if there is a danger in suppressing your worries in order to ride. My answer is that it’s imperative to have regular, reliable, relief from stress. Consistent, long term exposure to high levels of stress, especially in which you feel helpless and hopeless, is detrimental to your mental health and your physical well-being—and it has a significant negative impact on your immune system. I highly recommend that you find ways to compartmentalize your worries, release physical and mental tension, and give yourself opportunities to be productive in your world. Here are some strategies to get you started. Last, you mention you’re an optimist. Hang onto that quality! An optimist sees the opportunities in every situation. You, as a glass-half-full person, are needed right now more than ever. Look for the good in situations, such as the small pieces of progress or light. Maybe it’s the pony girl who just learned to canter, or the neighbor who brought over some cookies, or a kind gesture by a groom. What you focus on expands, so turn your mind to the new growth, the good, and the opportunities that present themselves now—and help others do the same.
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Written by CRM
Friday, 30 October 2020 02:11
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